19 Weeks

I have been giving my weeks of pregnancy themes lately: Week 16 was “The Week Where My Clothes Still Fit, But Not the Way They Used To”, Week 17 was “The Week I Went a Little Crazy, and Thought my Bladder was my Uterus and the Baby Hadn’t Grown in a Month”, Week 18 was “The Week I Thought the Baby was Perfect (For Having a Heatbeat We Heard Right Away on the Doppler)”. Week 19 has now been dubbed “The Week The Earth Moved”. Experiencing my first earthquake* while pregnant will make a good story for baby-to-be someday!

19 weeks

I’m still wearing my regular clothes, but I’m definitely expanding. I have to use the Bella Bands to wear pants, but dresses and skirts still mostly fit.

I’m also still LOVING the second trimester. More energy, less nausea? Yes! I’m still feeling comfortable and moving pretty normally (running to catch the metro, etc, which I’m sure will end at some point).

My appetite has definitely returned. Favorite fruit of the second trimester is definitely watermelon. I eat it most days. Favorite comfort food is grilled cheese sandwiches. I’ve had three in the last two weeks.

The big excitement is that I am now feeling the baby kick. It’s still really light, can’t be felt from the outside, but inside it’s like this little bubble popping. I started feeling this is in the middle of week 17, but I wasn’t sure that’s what I was feeling. After a week and a half of the same (occasional) feeling though, I’m accepting that it is the baby and it’s pretty awesome.

Next week we have our 20 week ultrasound and will get to see the baby for (probably) the last time before he or she is born. I can’t wait!

*I was born in San Francisco and we didn’t move until I was 2, so I’m sure I had been in an earthquake before yesterday, but I don’t remember them.

19 Weeks

Life List #20, Part 4: Visit Every Library In The DC System, Take A Picture, And Check Out A Book.

Lamond-Riggs Branch Library

This is Lamond-Riggs, which is our neighborhood library. It’s a small branch, but has a good, current collection. They usually have the bestsellers, things folks are interested in reading right now. The librarian is a master-weeder, so if you want older titles, early books in a series, etc, this is not the place for you – that said I always find a book I’ve been wanting to pick up when I walk in. I’ve never left empty-handed.

Inside Lamond-Riggs

To the left side of the above picture is the children’s area, which I guess we will be exploring more in the next year or two. To the right side, Jami checks out the new books. On this visit, I check out Pregnancy Day by Day, edited by Maggie Block.

Life List #20, Part 4: Visit Every Library In The DC System, Take A Picture, And Check Out A Book.

Dear Pregnant Ladies,

You are amazing. I see you when I’m running errands downtown, perfectly put together in a designer dress and heels. How do you look so stylish? I see you walking to metro with me in the evening, hot and tired and ready to deliver any day now. How are you surviving in the horrible heat this summer?

I marvel at all you do:  Write Master’s theses. Finish law school and take the bar exam. Buy a house. Move across the country. Move across the ocean. Parent toddlers, elementary school students, teenagers. I see you in my office, billing 90 hours a week as an associate. How do you do it? How do you manage to stay awake that long, to accomplish that much?

You carry two (or more) babies – twice the hormones, twice the discomfort, twice the awesomeness. You are pregnant far from home, far from those who know, love and support you. You make hard choices about what is best for your family. You develop complications. Pregnancy makes you sick. Your baby arrives early.

I have only had a taste of this pregnancy thing, but it’s surprised me with its challenges. You ladies are my heroes. You are not just amazing, you are kick-ass forces of nature. I see you and I think, I can DO this. I raise my hat to you, ladies. I raise my hat to you.

Love, me.

Dear Pregnant Ladies,

Lessons from the First Trimester: My Wife is Awesome

As I mentioned yesterday, I found the first trimester to be hard. As you can probably imagine, being tired, nauseous and nervous did not make me much fun to be around. I was grumpy, emotional, not feeling too amorous, and not doing much of anything around the house. Luckily, Jami was GREAT. She coped amazingly with her pregnant, but not productive, wife. Normally we alternate cleaning the bathroom and kitchen, but she took over all the household cleaning (the only chores I managed to do were the grocery shopping and the laundry). I love to cook and usually make dinner almost every night, but when my exhaustion hit around week 5, she ordered pizza, cooked us dinner, and served as sous chef on the nights I threw something basic together. She ran upstairs to get me glasses of water. She was a good sport about “dinners” I made consisting of hummus, veggies, and pita chips. She bought lunch for almost two months straight (not cooking means there aren’t any leftovers to send for lunch the next day). Most importantly she was patient and loving with a wife who was suddenly grumpy, whiny, negative and emotional. I married the right woman.

Lessons from the First Trimester: My Wife is Awesome

Thoughts on the First Trimester

I went into being pregnant with no real sense of what the first weeks of pregnancy would be like. I’d heard about morning sickness of course, and had a vague memory of a friend who was in early pregnancy talking about taking naps, but the first trimester isn’t a time that people usually talk about. The risk of miscarriage drops significantly at 12 weeks, so most folks wait until then or a little after to start talking about being pregnant. I wasn’t really sure what to expect – and at four, five, six weeks pregnant was somewhat desperate for any description of what that time was like for a real, live woman. The early weeks of pregnancy are a little isolating (or at least they were to me): there was this huge thing happening in my life (but we weren’t really talking about it). I was really excited (but trying not to be TOO excited) and nervous (but trying not to be the crazy pregnant lady). I  wasn’t feeling like my normal self (but was trying to ACT like my normal self). Honestly, I found the first trimester to be hard, much harder than I was expecting (and I am so relieved to be in my second trimester now and feeling so much better physically and emotionally).

I spent a lot of time on the internet trying to find women talking about their early pregnancy (but not about miscarrying – a good thing to write and read about, but not when you are 5 weeks and overanalyzing every twinge). So here is my contribution to the blogosphere about the physical experience of early pregnancy and when those symptoms occurred for me. Every pregnancy is different, but this is one version of a perfectly normal first trimester.

My very first symptom was frequent urination. I actually noticed this before I knew I was pregnant. I was at work on a Monday and realized in the afternoon that I had been peeing like crazy. I took a home pregnancy test that night – POSITIVE! I was pretty surprised by the frequent urination – I thought that wouldn’t happen until later in my pregnancy, when the baby was squeezing my bladder, but early in pregnancy it is caused by the hormones that are suddenly flooding your body.

My next symptom was spotting. To put it nicely, this symptom sucked. On Tuesday, I had bloodwork at the doctor’s office, which confirmed that I was pregnant. I was happy and giddy and shocked and excited. Then at 9PM I went to the bathroom and there was blood. Red blood. I had been feeling a little crampy all day, but figured that was just my uterus getting used to the new activity. Of course I immediately Googled my symptoms and what I heard was not reassuring. Spotting in early pregnancy was normal, you didn’t need to worry UNLESS the blood was red or you were also cramping. I had both worrisome symptoms and I was totally freaked out, absolutely convinced that I was miscarrying. I called my doctor’s office the next morning, trying to act calmer than I felt, and the nurse reassured me that it was normal (even with red blood, and some cramps). I had more bloodwork on Thursday which showed that my progesterone and HCG levels had more than doubled, as you like to see, which made me feel a little better. The blood had stopped by Friday (it turned from red to brown after about 12 hours and the cramps got better too), but I spent literally the rest of the first trimester inspecting the toilet paper for blood every time I went to the bathroom. It was so scary to me and made me more nervous than I think would have been otherwise. So I’m here to say, ladies, that if you bleed in your first trimester, even if it’s red and you have cramps, it doesn’t automatically mean that you are having a miscarriage. Also, don’t Google your symptoms when you think something is going wrong. Call your doctor’s office, that’s what they are there for.

By 5 weeks the exhaustion had hit in full force. I usually go to bed at around 11 PM, by 5 weeks (just one week after the positive pregnancy test), I was in bed by 9 PM. I started taking naps on the weekend (I almost never take naps). The exhaustion felt like what I imagine Mono feels like. I never had Mono, but my brother did and he spent months doing nothing but sleeping and watching movies. That’s how I felt. I stopped cooking dinner. I stopped doing chores. It was all I could do to work all day, come home and stay awake until 9 PM. It was overwhelming and I really wasn’t prepared to feel so drained. Luckily this has gotten better in the second trimester too. I’m able to stay awake a little later and do more stuff around the house. It’s good.

Also by week 5, I bought a bigger bra. Yes, my boobs grew that much. It’s crazy. (And they are supposed to grow more at the end of pregnancy). Other boob symptoms that happened over the course of the week – my nipples turned brown (it’s the hormones) and I started being able to see big blue veins under my skin (your blood volume increases during pregnancy to support the baby). A lot women have really sore boobs in the first trimester, but that wasn’t a problem for me. There was a day where they felt sort of tingly, and they felt hot to the touch most of the time (I think it was all the expanding blood vessels), but they didn’t hurt, which was good.

Midway through week 5 the nausea hit. I never really had full blown morning sickness. I only threw up twice (both times my prenatal vitamin – that thing is nasty), but I felt gross for most of the next 7 weeks. It was especially bad if I hadn’t eaten in a while or if I ate fried foods (which I only did once because the nausea was so bad). I never really felt hungry in my first trimester and I had to force myself to eat on a regular schedule. I didn’t really have any food aversions or cravings either – if you put something in front of me, I could eat it, which was good news on the healthy eating front. Some women can’t stand leafy greens in early pregnancy, but if someone made me a salad I would eat it no problem. That said, nothing tasted good for weeks either. It didn’t taste bad, it’s just like the nausea took all the pleasure out of eating. The day I realized (somewhere around week 13) that I felt hungry and that the food I bought was yummy was a very happy day indeed.

One of the things that happens in pregnancy is increased vaginal discharge (sorry if this is TMI) called Leukorrhia. It’s designed to help keep everything healthy and clean in there, to help prevent infection. The midwife mentioned it at our 9 week appointment, but I didn’t really start noticing it until week 10.

Around week 11, I started being able to feel the top of my uterus right over the top of my pubic bone. It’s a weird sensation, sort of feels like a full balloon or something. It’s the first real physical sign I have that not only is there something in there, but it’s getting bigger. I find it reassuring even now to be able to feel it.

Those were my first trimester symptoms. Some have gone away (the nausea and extreme exhaustion) and some are here to stay for the rest of pregnancy (big boobs, expanding uterus). There are some standard pregnancy symptoms that I didn’t have at all (constipation – happy to have been spared that one), but this is what the first trimester looked like for me.

Thoughts on the First Trimester

Life List #30. Attend a DC United game.

DC United 0 - New England Revolution 1

I have lived in DC for 11 years, and until last month, DC United was the only major sports team in the DC area that I had never attended a single game of. Thankfully we have now rectified that situation.

ready for the game

On a very hot Wednesday in July, we attend our first soccer game in DC. It was great – the Women’s World Cup had just ended, so we were in a total soccer mood. Sadly DC United didn’t win, but that hardly dampened our enjoyment.

the rowdy side

It was great to watch the soccer, but my favorite part of the game was the fans. I had no idea that DC United had such rabid fans – they drummed, sang songs, and waved huge flags (not unlike soccer fans in Germany where I last attended a professional soccer match at the ripe old age of 17). It was so much fun.

United Game

We are already plotting attending another game in September – when the weather will hopefully be a little cooler!

Life List #30. Attend a DC United game.

What Else I’m Reading

In addition to the books I finished in July, I’ve also been doing a good amount of reading on babies and pregnancy – trying not to get too far ahead of where I am now (16 weeks). The books I’m working my way through are:

The First Nine Months of Life by Geraldine Lux Flanagan. This book was first published in 1960s and was the book my parents read when they were pregnant with my big brother. When we told them we were pregnant, they passed it down to me. It’s interesting to read and really focused on the baby’s development (not so much on what is going on with the mom), with tons of pictures. It’s neat to read it and picture my parents in the same place we are now – getting ready for their first child and not at all sure what to expect.

Pregnancy Day by Day edited by Maggie Blott. I think of this as my pregnancy advent calendar. A lot of books about pregnancy deal (quite understandably) mostly with the end of pregnancy, preparing for labor, delivery, and, you know, the baby that’s going to come out of you and need care. I’ll be getting to those books soon, I’m sure, but for now, I’m focused on keeping this baby in my body and healthy. But because I can’t feel the baby yet, and I don’t look pregnant, I have a hard time picturing what is going on. The book has a page a day for every day of pregnancy, so every morning I read the days news, look at the pictures and think, our baby has fingers now or can hear or has started swallowing. It’s pretty wild to think about and really helps me feel more connected to the little one.

Your Pregnancy Week by Week (6th Edition) by Glade B. Curtis. I usually read this book on Sunday nights getting ready for the week ahead – it helps me know what’s going on that week and tells me (my favorite part) how big the baby is (16 weeks equals approximately 4.5 inches). This somehow always blows my mind. Jami is reading this book every week too, which makes it fun to talk about what’s happening.

Are there any books about pregnancy, childbirth or infants that you really like or found helpful? I’m definitely interested in recommendations.

What Else I’m Reading