Photo by Eva Russo of PhotoLadyLove.
We weren’t going to have a first dance. Pretty much up until a few minutes before we found ourselves dancing, we weren’t going to have a first dance. But then, dinner was over, and we wanted to encourage folks to make their way to the dance floor, and a first dance seemed the easiest way to do that. We asked our friend Pete to play DJ (easy enough, since he is a DJ, and did all the mixes we listened to all evening), and put on You Are the Best Thing by Ray LaMontagne. Was it weird to dance in front of everyone we knew? Maybe not for everyone, but for two attention-avoiding ladies, yes. But I’m glad we did – first of all because I was so very happy that I wanted to dance with Jami, and second of all, because it worked. Other folks started dancing (more on that to come) and we all had a grand time.
*My wife complains that you can’t see my face in any of the dancing pictures. But since I like looking at her face, and this is my blog, this is the picture you get. 🙂
Yesterday was the first day that same-sex marriages were celebrated in the District. (Couples could apply for licenses starting on the 3rd, but the District has a mandatory 3-day waiting period for all couples). Imagine my joy when I watched the video accompanying this article this morning of three of the first weddings and saw… the woman who previously owned our house! Lorilyn (also known as Candy) Holmes, the woman wearing the black suit in the image you see, was the seller of our house, which had been her childhood home. It’s a small (and this week, quite happy) world.
So… as may be assumed by our “engaged” status, we’re getting married! This is exciting and momentous and occasionally stressful. We’ve had over a year to get used to that “engaged” idea, and now it seems that the wedding is just around the corner – May 1st to be exact. After picking the location (and finding a photographer, yay!) this summer, we were able to push-off pretty much all other wedding-related tasks because it was so far off. But the wedding powers-that-be seems to all say that Save-the-Date announcements should go out 5-6 months before the big event and that meant we needed to get our list finished and our announcements designed, printed and out.
I had this idea to do a history of our relationship in book titles as our Save-the-Date (from Shy Single to Happily Ever After, with some other milestones like Cross Country, Living in Small Spaces, and The Fire in between). Jami and I are both librarians after all, and good readers to boot, and it seemed a little more personal than the ubiquitous Save-the-Date Magnets that are so popular these days. In the end that didn’t make for a very good image, but luckily Jami has a good eye for photography and came up with the image above. We ordered the Save-the-Dates from Snapfish and I was super happy with how they turned out.
We sent them out last week while in New England, and today DC gave us an early wedding present. See, so far, we can’t actually get legally married in the District of Columbia, but we are hoping it will be legal by our wedding. The DC Council today voted to pass the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Equality Amendment Act which would make same-sex marriage legal in the District of Columbia. The bill has to get voted on again once more for final passage (and then has to go through a 30 day Congressional review period. Boo!), but things are heading in the right direction. Fingers crossed.